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Intensive Overview
Three Days · In Person
Sexual Abuse & Unwanted Sexual Behavior Intensive

The story beneath what was done, and what we do

Thank you for considering this intensive. Few parts of our story carry more shame—or stay more hidden—than our sexual brokenness, whether it came to us through harm we suffered or harm we've found ourselves repeating. You don't have to keep carrying it alone.

Sexual wounds rarely yield to willpower or a weekly hour. Shame thrives in isolation and in the gaps between sessions, and the deepest patterns—both the ones done to us and the ones we reach for—are anchored in stories that have never been told well. An intensive creates something different: enough focused, unhurried time to bring the whole story into the light, in a space that is safe, trauma-informed, and held with profound care.

This work honors both realities—abuse endured and behavior that feels beyond your control—because they so often share the same roots. Each of these three days builds on the last: telling the truth, understanding the roots, and finding a path toward freedom.

Day One

Telling the truth

Bringing the whole story into the light

Shame survives by keeping the story fragmented and unspoken. Day One is about telling it—at your pace, with no rush and no judgment. Whether your story holds abuse, compulsion, secrecy, or all of these, we begin by giving it words and witness:

We move slowly and gently—nothing is forced. Being met with kindness in the very place you expected condemnation is, itself, the beginning of healing. By the end of Day One, what has lived in the dark begins to lose some of its power.

"Shame cannot survive being spoken and met with grace. The story told in the light is no longer the story that controls us."
Day Two

Understanding the roots

Why it took hold, and why it persists

Behavior and wounds both have histories. Day Two goes beneath the surface to understand where this took root—not to excuse anything, but because what we don't understand, we're doomed to repeat. Sexual sin and sexual harm are almost never only about sex; they're about comfort, escape, power, contempt, and the ache of unmet longing.

For those carrying the weight of abuse, we tend the wound with care, naming its impact without letting it define you. For those caught in unwanted behavior, we map the cycle honestly enough that it loses its hold. Understanding is not the finish line—but nothing changes until we see clearly.

Day Three

A path toward freedom

Repair, integrity, and what comes next

Insight alone won't hold under pressure. Day Three is about what comes after—how to interrupt the cycle, how to grieve and heal what was taken, and how to walk in integrity and wholeness rather than white-knuckled control. We'll focus on:

We work with your actual story—not a generic program. You'll leave with a personalized take-home document: a written summary of your story, the roots and cycle as we mapped them, your particular triggers and longings, and concrete, sustainable next steps.

"Freedom isn't the absence of struggle. It's no longer being ruled by what we couldn't face—and discovering we were never beyond grace."

Logistics & Cost

$3,600 · three-day intensive

If you'd like to stay close by, I can offer a well-appointed apartment in a great neighborhood—good restaurants nearby and just minutes from my office—at $150 per night, based on availability. This work is confidential and held with the utmost care.

Mike Boland mike@cadence.rest · 407-808-0735